I got this one in an e-mail that claimed it was a real article from 1955. If you click on the image a larger one will open.
So does this mean people who say they're got old-fashioned would advice these to be the rules still? Which one made you laugh the most? Most angry?
So does this mean people who say they're got old-fashioned would advice these to be the rules still? Which one made you laugh the most? Most angry?
I see what you mean Laine, and I know that worked for my parents. The part that got under my skin is to defer power to the man in communication/power. I think my folks are still together because they talked and even argued with each other as equals. Questioning the other's judgements does cause problems, and ambushing someone at the door when they just got home after a long day is a kind of a silly thing to do. It just bugs me because some of those quotes defer power to the man. My longest relationship ended with the communication stopped working both ways. You've been blogging about buying that property, and sounds like you and your husband are a team. Lets just say my ex and I weren't. He's a nice enough guy, but gotta be able to talk as equals. The only man I've ever felt like an equal with (in a relationship - had to come back and add this qualifier!), he and I were only friends, and that strikes me as unfortunate sometimes. LOL. Because he and I enjoyed talking about everything and we could even argue and still like each other afterward. I'm pretty good at some of those tips. But the dusting and clutter was never my forte.
ReplyDeleteBeing a man I read this and find nothing especially wrong with it, except that whole knowing your place bit. Of course, I have never had that Darren Stevens power job where I staggered through the door at the end of the day and demanded a double.
ReplyDeleteAnnalee and Laine- I wholeheartedly agree with this set of rules. It just re-affirms my belief that woman should be uneducated and kept at home, raising kids, baking, cleaning, barefoot, and pregnant. Good thing that Judge Alito is on the supreme court now, cuz now we have an advocate judging the laws ;-)
ReplyDeleteI agree that the increase in juvenile delinquency has little to do with the proliferation of drug, sex, and violence in TV programs, movies, and music. If we just put a doggie collar around our wimmen and attach a leash, life would get so much better.
This reminds me of the Donna Reed's Show, where the housewife did all the housework wearing a nice pretty dress and pearls. OH PLEEEZEEEE!!! *rolls eyes*
ReplyDeleteWhat's the deal with us making ourselves interesting 'coz his day might have been boring? Excuse me? Hello? Who says our day hasn't been boring too? Why can't he be the interesting one?
And obviously the author of this article had to be a man. Rest for 15 minutes? How the heck do you expect to rest for 15 min. when your kids are constantly scream, "Mom,..."? Sheesh!
I agree with Laine. That whole bit of not complaining if he stayed out late is a lot of bull. And DON'T GET ME STARTED on the "don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgements... He is the master of the house." Excuse me? Who died and made him king? Well, he would be nothing without the woman. He'd come home and be as helpless as a baby. Marriage is about TWO people sharing responsibilities like a team. Respect works both ways. Both have to be in agreement when it comes down to take decisions. She should respect him, and he should respect her. One isn't the master, the other the mindless slave.
This article proves that slavery comes in many shapes. Marriage back then was one of them.
They were less divorces back then because women lacked sometimes the level of education (college degrees) and the work opportunities. What did a woman had to aspire to but to get married? After all, her options were so limited. The reality of Mrs. Brady and Mrs. Reed is that she would be spent half the day drinking, wishing for a better life.
If women were so happy in the 50s, why was there a women's revolution? What was the base of the feminist movement then? Revolutions don't start unless there's unrest and unhappiness. The same way Afro-Americans said "Enough is enough," and went on to prove that they should, and I quote Martin Luther King, Jr., "not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character." Women did the same.
So I have a dream too. I have a dream that my two goddaughters will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by their gender but by the content of their character.
Well, Annalee, I was all set to pop in here and post a humorous remark.
ReplyDeleteAnd then I read the comments. :-0
So, never mind. LOL
I laugh every time I see that.
ReplyDeleteHow people want to live their lives behind closed doors... well, as long as both consenting adults are consenting to it, and happy with it, then they're ahead of many people.
I'm lucky in my choice of husband, because he laughs every time he sees that too. Then he takes me out for pizza ;)
I laughed at the line about 'be a little gay' = of course that has a whole different meaning today.
ReplyDeleteThe idea that a man's problems are more imporant than a woman's is absurd. Any mother who has been home with a sick child all day KNOWS that her husband's day at the office was a walk in the park compared to hers.
The thought that a wife has no right to question her husband is what has led to a lot of women being oppressed and abused over the years. Marriage is a partnership and this was written in the days when a wife was no more than a man's glorified servant. A woman who feels she has no right to question her husband, especially when he stays out all night, is a doormat.
In my opinion the role God/dess created for women is far different than the role the church created for them. The sexes are equal but different and there are plenty of households run solely by women because the men couldn't handle their responsiblities and left. To continue to perpetuate the idea that women should 'known their place' simply because they are women is ridiculous.
On the other side of the argument, I think women's lib did us a few disservices as well. Now most mothers HAVE to work in order to help support the family. That's a shame. We lose out on precious time with our children because we're not supposed to just be fulfilled by being wives and mothers anymore. The job of being a SAHM used to be considered what was expected of a woman and maybe that was wrong, but now it's been devalued to the point that we're not supposed to be fulfilled by taking care of our families and that's wrong too.
Annalee, I hope you have a lot of bandwidth here, I think you definitely got everybody riled up.
LOL
Annalee- just a little tongue in cheek humor. I meant no social commentary.
ReplyDeleteThe RULES were really funny. I don't think they would fly today.
Hmmm...angry....."duty" and "no right"
ReplyDeleteGeesh, no wonder there will little divorce back then...why would there be, he had his doormat.
Funny.....Make the house tranquil....rrrriiiiiggggtttttt
The Good Book says:
ReplyDelete"Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others." Phillipians 2:3-4
I agree with the above scripture. And my faith tells me DH is the head of this household. I agree with that one as well, HOWEVER, this Good Wife crap is the twisted version of the above scripture.
Yes, treat him as if he were a king. Respect and love him. But don't belittle and demean yourself in the process. That "guide" is a good recipe for low self-esteem, resentment, anger and unfulfillment. But what really rubbed my rhubarb the most was this:
1. I have no right to question him? Yeah, okay. Pfttt.
2. His topics of conversation are more important? Hmmmm. I always thought they were EQUALLY important.
3. And finally ... "A good wife knows her place." ROFLMAO
What this silly Good Wife thingie forgot to add is this advice from The Good Book:
"So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself." Ephesians 5:28
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Annalee I love your blog!! I just figured out how to check out other people's blogs and found yours first! Very cool!
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